We are all going to be Goodlies, soon. Be your conscience
The world needs a new religion. One where all humans, who are naturally good, can say I belong to the “Goodly Human” religion. Every day they can worship themselves for being goodly.
If religions cannot curb their violent tendencies, we should all look for “Goodlies” to pave the way to a better future. One, where everyone lives by the simple code of One World, One Family, and everyone a Goodly.
All religious and spiritual people , right now, should love “their enemies” before there is more war and bloodshed. Women especially, should be given more influence in the world to balance , men, Mars, war, violence. The power with women, Venus, love, beauty, friendship and prosperity.
No matter how religious we say we are, it doesn’t take much for the demon within to come out fighting. It seems like, for 90% of the world, religion is paper thin, a valuable commodity for social harmony, but it can be easily pierced, shattered, broken and compromised through religious and cultural conflict.
I am impressed by the Falun Gong and Christians in China that are being terrorized by the Communist State. So many have been killed and tortured because of their spiritual beliefs; which they have the right to have as free citizens of the world. I am also impressed by the young people in Myanmar and Thailand fighting, often with their lives, against the same kind of tyranny. Fighting to have a basic freedom of movement, beliefs, and equality. Fighting against the oppression by the rich and powerful (usually some kind of crazy general) of the poor and weak. Even the USA is now, 2021, fighting the same kind of war: not to lose individual freedom to be who we want, as long as we are not harming anyone else.
The extreme socialist policies of the Democratic Party are now at war with the traditional conservative values of Christian democracy. All kinds of government control over our lives is despicable and evil. Remember, you have never given anyone power over your existence. You have probably accepted certain social responsibilities as a necessary evil, like going to war, tax and the law. This is real heart given’ stuff, by each individual for the sake of the greater good. Now, the Democrats and Globalists; which includes big tech, big business and big egos are saying we will make you acquiesce to our socialist ideologies. The globalist, socialist propaganda from Russia and China has been waiting to hatch in America for decades and because the globalists are fully entrenched in China and making billions their desires to spread ‘communistic capitalism’ throughout the world is now out of control and needs stopping. The technocrats are taking over the world along with their robots, AI, space junk and trying to make the world real God free. And turning it into fake “Communist Demigod” full.
This story is meant to be about forgiveness and love, the foundation of all religions, which is often expressed in the most magical way. Usually, religious people are the ones handing out food for the homeless and baking cakes at church.
With this assault on our ‘higher selves’ our spiritual beliefs that are the true manifestation of life on Earth; every single believer in their higher selves have to step up even more, and fight with their forgiveness, their love for each other and from that deep place within that can eclipse hatred, racism, greed, power and insanity. Is Christianity the answer? It can be, the same as Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism and… As long as everyone truly respects the true teachings gleaned from their books and deny the rubbish that came with it from the hand of humans (men).
The fighting in Israel and Gaza at the moment, May 2021, is what I am talking about. The hatred the Arabs have for the Jews and the Jews for the Arabs, is deep, dark and evil. They may live comfortably enough in Israel together, Arabs (mostly Muslims) are 20%, of the population, most of the time. But, a tiny spark turns into a bush fire quickly, because their religion fails to bridge the differences and satisfy ‘the male’ yearning for conflict, war and chaos.
When I saw this image the other day, in relationship to the fighting in Israel; I was amazed to see the world religions represented in one spot, so close, yet so far. There is no better time than now for all religions to unite, respect each other’s ‘personal’ points of view and let the real spiritual powers of the universe get on with creating an even more beautiful world than before: humans becoming gods, living in harmony with each other, animals and nature. Hmmm sounds like a fairy tale, but it is real when you think about what religions teach about love and light and what people don’t want to understand. Most spiritual people, who are not religious because they want to be their higher selves without being corrupted by ‘man’s confusing, contradictory words are n keeping the world together until religions find their common ground and common sense.
Here are some references from the Bible, Quran, Bhagavad-Gita and Buddhism that are a timely reminder for all of us to dig deeper into our spiritual selves. To bring light back into a darkening world. A warrior for good. Mainly about forgiveness and hatred.
This is a mixture of good and bad. I think all religious texts have a lot of good and a lot of evil self-serving teachings. I found, without looking, some text in the Quran that is very divisive, and shows clearly that religious texts, maybe most of them, are the words of MAN not something divine. This is the pain of the world.
What do I believe? I believe in staying in the light as often as you can. And staying out of the shadows, as often as you can. That all humans are living out their Karma, we don’t need to add to it, including our own. What is Karma? Good begets good and bad begets bad in every facet of life. It is that simple, and we don’t need anyone to tell us this, we know it. Further enquiries of the spiritual realm are easily facilitated by going within. Contemplation, meditation, quietness, thinking, pondering, solving and awareness. I think men are often blinded by the endless words, written by other men. Making them want to take control of everything in their environment including animals, women, nature and money in the name of God written in Man’s pen.
Everything following are random spiritual teachings found on the internet. Not my words, ideas or beliefs.
Luke 6:27-36
“But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold your tunic either. Give to everyone who begs from you, and from one who takes away your goods do not demand them back. And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them. …
1 John 4:20
If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.
James 4:1-17
What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions. You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. Or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the Scripture says, “He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us”? …
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.” (Matthew 18:21-22, NIV)
“You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy. But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike. If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much. If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that. But you are to be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect.” (Matthew 5:43-48, NLT)
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. (Matthew 6:14-16, NIV)
If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone. Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but leave room for God’s wrath. For it is written: “Vengeance is Mine; I will repay, says the Lord.” On the contrary, “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink. For in so doing, you will heap burning coals on his head.”…
Allah has said in the Quran about forgiveness towards fellow beings, no matter how much they have hurt you”… They should rather pardon and overlook. Would you not love Allah to forgive you? Allah is Ever-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Qur’an, 24:22)
The repayment of a bad action is one equivalent to it. But if someone pardons and puts things right, his reward is with Allah. Certainly He does not love wrongdoers. (Surat Ash-Shura, 40)
“Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah. Those who are with him are harsh against the unbelievers but merciful to one another.” (Quran 48.29)
Muhammad said, “I have been ordered to fight with the people till they say, none has the right to be worshipped but Allah” (Sahih al-Bukhari 6924)
Muhammad said: “I will expel the Jews and Christians from the Arabian Peninsula and will not leave any but Muslim.” (Sahih Muslim 4366)
Muhammad said: “I have been commanded to fight against people so long as they do not declare that there is no god but Allah.” (Sahih Muslim 30)
“God will reward the righteously striving believers through His favor. He does not love the unbelievers.” (Quran 30.45)
“O ye who believe! take not the Jews and the Christians for your friends and protectors. They are but friends and protectors to each other. And he amongst you that turns to them (for friendship) is of them. Verily Allah guideth not a people unjust.” (Quran 5.51)
“There has arisen, between us and you, enmity and hatred for ever, – unless ye believe in Allah and Him alone…” (Quran 60.4)
“O ye who believe! Fight those of the disbelievers who are near to you, and let them find harshness in you, and know that Allah is with those who keep their duty (unto Him).” (Quran 9.123)
“I am with you. give firmness to the Believers. I will instill terror into the hearts of the Unbelievers. smite ye above their necks and smite all their finger-tips off them.” (Quran 8.12)
“Help us against the unbelievers…” (Quran 2.286)9
“And whoever desires a religion other than Islam, it shall not be accepted from him, and in the hereafter, he shall be one of the losers.” (Quran 3.85)
“The only religion in the sight of God is Islam…” (Quran 3.19)
“And fight them on until there is no more tumult or oppression, and there prevail justice and faith in Allah altogether and everywhere.” (Quran 8.39)
“It is He who has sent His Messenger with guidance and the religion of truth, so that He exalts it above all other religions. Allah is the Sufficient Witness.” (Quran 48.28)
“Verily, those who disbelieve (in the religion of Islam, the Qur’an and Prophet Muhammad) from among the people of the Scripture (Jews and Christians) and Al-Mushrikun will abide in the Fire of Hell. They are the worst of creatures.” (Quran 98.6)
82:62 Those who believe (in the Qur’an), and those who follow the Jewish(scriptures), and the Christians and the Sabians,- any who believe in Allah and the Last Day, and work righteousness, shall have their reward with their Lord; on them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve.
“Shortly after this was written Muhammad’s army slaughtered hundreds of Jews and sold their women and children into slavery when they took the city of Medina.”
Forgiveness is a divine quality. The essay is about cultivating the attitude of forgiveness through spiritual transformation according to the Bhagavadgita.
Once upon a time there was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he should hammer a nail in the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. But gradually, the number of daily nails dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the first day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He proudly told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.
“You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, it won’t matter how many times you say ‘I’m sorry’, the wound is still there.”
His Holiness the Dalai Lama mentioned: “When reason ends, then anger begins. Therefore, anger is a sign of weakness.”
Is anger or hatred ever justified? A direct answer from Allan Wallace in ‘Tibetan Buddhism from the Ground up’:
“‘Righteous hatred’ is in the same category as ‘righteous cancer’ or ‘righteous tuberculosis’. All of them are absurd concepts.”
This does not mean that one should never take action against aggression or injustice! Instead, one should try to develop an inner calmness and insight to deal with these situations in an appropriate way. We all know that anger and aggression give rise to anger and aggression. One could say that there are three ways to get rid of anger: kill the opponent, kill yourself or kill the anger – which one makes most sense to you?”
And as Khenpo Konchog Gyaltsen Rinpoche mentioned:
“Some people feel patience is showing weakness or pessimism.
But, actually, patience shows the strength and clarity of mind, which are based on wisdom and compassion.
Without proper wisdom and compassion, one cannot practice patience.”
But of course not only Buddhism recognizes the shortcomings of anger, in the Bible for example in Psalm 37, 14-16 it reads:
“The angry ones draw their swords, the angry ones aim their bows. To put down the poor and the weakened and to kill those who walk on the path of righteousness.
But their sword hits their own heart, their bows will be broken.
With his poverty, the righteous one is richer than all the angry ones in their abundance.”
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
The Buddha “If subconscious anger had a parallel in Buddhist writings, it would have to do with what is called mental unhappiness or dissatisfaction. This is regarded as the source of anger and hostility. We can see subconscious anger in terms of a lack of awarness, as well as an active misconstruing of reality.”
His Holiness the Dalai Lama
“If there are sound reasons or bases for the points you demand, then there is no need to use violence. On the other hand, when there is no sound reason that concessions should be made to you but mainly your own desire, then reason cannot work and you have to rely on force. Thus, using force is not a sign of strength but rather a sign of weakness. Even in daily human contact, if we talk seriously, using reasons, there is no need to feel anger. We can argue the points. When we fail to prove with reason, then anger comes. When reason ends, then anger begins. Therefore, anger is a sign of weakness.”
The Buddha was sitting under a tree talking to his disciples when a man came and spat in his face. He wiped it off, and he asked the man, “What next? What do you want to say next?” The man was a little puzzled because he himself never expected that when you spit in someone’s face he should ask “What next?” He had no such experience in his past. He had insulted people and they had become angry and they had reacted. Or if they were cowards and weaklings, they had smiled, trying to bribe him. But the Buddha was like neither, he was not angry, nor in any way offended, nor in any way cowardly. But just matter-of-factly he said, “What next?” There was no reaction on his part.
But Buddha’s disciples became angry, and they reacted. His closest disciple, Ananda, said, “This is too much. We cannot tolerate it. He has to be punished for it, otherwise everybody will start doing things like this!”
Buddha said, “You keep silent. He has not offended me, but you are offending me. He is new, a stranger. He must have heard from people something about me, that this man is an atheist, a dangerous man who is throwing people off their track, a revolutionary, a corrupter. And he may have formed some idea, a notion of me. He has not spit on me, he has spit on his notion. He has spit on his idea of me because he does not know me at all, so how can he spit on me?
“If you think on it deeply,” Buddha said, “he has spit on his own mind. I am not part of it, and I can see that this poor man must have something else to say because this is a way of saying something. Spitting is a way of saying something. There are moments when you feel that language is impotent: in deep love, in intense anger, in hate, in prayer. There are intense moments when language is impotent. Then you have to do something. When you are angry, intensely angry, you hit the person, you spit on him, you are saying something. I can understand him. He must have something more to say, that’s why I’m asking, “What next?”
The man was even more puzzled! And Buddha said to his disciples, “I am more offended by you because you know me, and you have lived for years with me, and still you react.”
Puzzled, confused, the man returned home. He could not sleep the whole night. When you see a Buddha, it is difficult, impossible to sleep anymore the way you used to sleep before. Again and again he was haunted by the experience. He could not explain it to himself, what had happened. He was trembling all over, sweating and soaking the sheets. He had never come across such a man; the Buddha had shattered his whole mind and his whole pattern, his whole past.
The next morning he went back. He threw himself at Buddha’s feet. Buddha asked him again, “What next? This, too, is a way of saying something that cannot be said in language. When you come and touch my feet, you are saying something that cannot be said ordinarily, for which all words are too narrow; it cannot be contained in them.” Buddha said, “Look, Ananda, this man is again here, he is saying something. This man is a man of deep emotions.”
The man looked at Buddha and said, “Forgive me for what I did yesterday.”
Buddha said, “Forgive? But I am not the same man to whom you did it. The Ganges goes on flowing, it is never the same Ganges again. Every man is a river. The man you spit upon is no longer here. I look just like him, but I am not the same, much has happened in these twenty-four hours! The river has flowed so much. So I cannot forgive you because I have no grudge against you.
“And you also are new. I can see you are not the same man who came yesterday because that man was angry and he spit, whereas you are bowing at my feet, touching my feet. How can you be the same man? You are not the same man, so let us forget about it. Those two people, the man who spit and the man on whom he spit, both are no more. Come closer. Let us talk of something else.”
t’s called the doctrine of vyāja or an “excuse” also known as ajñāta-sukriti – the unintentional generation of merit.
The theological concept is that the Lord is so limitlessly compassionate – a veritable ocean-of-compassion (dayā-sāgara) that he lies upon the Serpent of Eternity (ananta-seśa) dreaming up ways in which he can ensure that every sentient being is liberated. So he is just looking for a chance, an excuse to forgive them for any offences and be reunited with them. There is no offence which the Lord finds unforgivable and after purging the transgressor through Karma he then seeks for any tiny pretence to grant Liberation (mokṣa).
In the Gita it is taught whoever remembers the Lord at the time of death will be liberated, how much more those who think of him continually.
So one constantly thinks of another due to two causes – either profound love or hate. But hate is not the opposite of love it is just a negative form of “love”. The opposite of love is indifference. So even one who bears a hatred of Lord Vishnu frequently thinks of him and the Lord out of his overwhelming compassion accepts that hatred as love and grants the hater the same Liberation that is granted to devotees.
In Hindu mythology there are dozens of stories of even dissolute people who have mentioned the holy name in error being liberated. So Hindus traditionally name their children after the Gods so that everyone who calls their name will have a chance of being unintentionally liberated.
Human beings are complex characters. Sometimes we hurt, and sometimes we are hurt. In both situations, we cannot avoid suffering. The attitude of forgiveness is a culmination of spiritual practice and inner growth. By cultivating it, one can cultivate all other related virtues. Whether you forgive someone or not, it depends upon the circumstances and your essential nature. In spiritual practice you learn to forgive others unconditionally, irrespective of circumstances.
Thus, the attitude of forgiveness belongs to a higher state of mind. One can attain that state and cultivate forgiving nature by self-purification through spiritual practice. The Bhagavadgita (10.4) clearly states that forgiveness arises from God only. It is associated with other divine qualities such as intelligence, knowledge, freedom from delusion, truthfulness, control of the senses, control of the mind, fearlessness, nonviolence, austerity, charity, etc.
God is extremely forgiving by nature. He is compassionate, all-loving, friendly and all-forgiving. One of the lessons of the Bhagavadgita is that we can seek the forgiveness of God by directly approaching him, and if our approach is sincere, we will surely be forgiven. From God’s perspective, the whole creation is an extension of him, and you too are a part of him. Therefore, when he is forgiving someone, he is forgiving but an aspect of himself. That duality of “this and that” is in us because of our embodied nature, but not in him because he is one, indivisible Self.
By his forgiveness, our sinful karma is purified, and we are fully exonerated. If you want to be free from negative karma, seek his forgiveness every day, whether you committed any offense or not. The truth is, when you live in this world, it is not possible to avoid hurting or harming others or affecting them in some way. Intentionally or unintentionally, your actions are bound to hurt others. Violence is inherent in life and survival. Whether it is eating food or enjoying life, taking a bath or drinking water, there is always someone who loses something to make things possible for you.
Therefore, one should always seek forgiveness from God in happiness and sorrow, in success and failure, and in daily life too, whether there is an apparent cause or not. You must seek forgiveness before eating food because you do not know how many people you might have hurt to obtain it. Seek forgiveness when you perform a ritual, because knowingly or unknowingly you may make mistakes while performing it.
The offerings in the ritual may have also been obtained by destroying some life or causing some loss to unknown people. Thus, many a time you do not know how many times in a day you may be hurting others through your actions and inaction. By cultivating the attitude of seeking forgiveness, you can cleanse yourself of all those sins and grow in compassion and forgiveness. Sin is inherent in life. You cannot avoid it even if you lead the most righteous life. Therefore, it is better to seek forgiveness from God on a continuous basis. Make that an essential part of your prayers.
In Hinduism, atonement, forgiveness and expiation are the best means to self-purification. By them, householders who engage in various desire-ridden actions in the performance of their Dharma or otherwise can overcome sinful karma. In Sanskrit, forgiveness (kshama) is synonymous with suffering, endurance, tolerance, patience or forbearance (kshamata). Forgiveness encompasses all these, and more. Forgiveness is a virtue because by forgiving others, you willingly accept the suffering caused by others by their thoughtless actions.
In the Bhagavadgita, forgiveness is mentioned as a virtue in conjunction with other divine qualities. Arjuna repeatedly sought forgiveness of Lord Krishna for his behavior, questions, doubting nature, ignorance and lack of discernment. Lord Krishna always responded with loving kindness. According to the scripture (11.42), one may seek forgiveness for inappropriate behavior, whether it is intentional or unintentional.
God is ever forgiving because forgiveness is a divine quality and an essential aspect of divine grace. However, we do not get the impression from the scripture that everyone is automatically forgiven. One has to earn it through spiritual and devotional effort. God is indifferent and without desires and preferences. Therefore, he does not personally take interest in anyone or anything. However, he may respond if he is approached with faith and devotion.
Understanding the role of ego in forgiveness.
In mundane life it is not always easy to forgive someone, especially if they have caused you great harm or hurt. The ego is the one who hurts and gets hurt. It plays an important role in personal conflicts and in hurting others or becoming hurt by them in the process. It is easily offended because it is vulnerable to anger, envy, pride, lust, etc. Ego is the cause of desires, attachments, expectations, restlessness and mental instability. If you are offended, disturbed, irritated or inconvenienced by your actions or those of others, you can be certain that it is your ego, which is reacting, and which is responsible for it.
You can use these feelings as barometers to gauge the strength or the pressure of your ego. If you are frequently hurt or offended by others, it means you have a strong ego, and you need to work on it. Because of that, in many spiritual traditions the initiates are advised to attract criticism and negative attention from others by deliberate acts and create opportunities to weaken their egos and cultivate equanimity and sameness.
Ego is also known in Hinduism as anava (atomicity). It refers to the feeling or the attitude that you are an individual entity which is distinct and separate from Ananta, the infinite God. Anavatva, or the feeling of egoism, makes you insecure, selfish, self-important and defensive. Hence, those who are predominantly egoistic are easily provoked by others. They also tend to be aggressive towards others.
The role of gunas
According to the Bhagavadgita, excessive egoism is a sign of demonic nature (danava prvritti). Egoism arises from Nature (Prakriti), not from God (Purusha). As such, it is an undivine and undesirable quality. Anger, envy, pride, greed, passion, etc., also arise from it as associated qualities because of the predominance of impurities, which are responsible for our suffering and bondage upon earth.
They are collectively attributed to the two modes of Nature (gunas) namely Rajas and Tamas. The Bhagavadgita states that Rajas has the nature of passion, which arises from attachments and desires, and Tamas has the nature of ignorance, which deludes the beings and makes them negligent and indolent. When Rajas is predominant one suffers from greediness, restlessness, hankering, whereas from Tamas arise darkness, inertia, carelessness and delusion. These qualities and mental states are primarily associated with ego.
Ego is also vulnerable to evil nature and qualities such as vanity, arrogance, self-pride, anger, harshness, impatience and ignorance. Hence, egoistic people are difficult to please and do not easily forgive or forget anything. These qualities can be overcome by spiritual practice and by cultivating detachment and dispassion, whereby ego becomes weak and surrenders itself to the forces of Nature.
The third mode is Sattva. It is responsible for purity and tranquility. Virtues such as brilliance, forgiveness, fortitude, cleanliness, freedom from malice, absence of self-importance arise from it. In other words, Sattvic people are humble and possess humility and patience. Thereby, they easily let go of their pride and forgive others.
Divine nature and forgiveness
From the above it is clear that if you want to cultivate forgiveness, you cannot simply focus upon that one virtue only. Forgiving nature (kshamata) is an effect or a consequence of the divine nature, which manifests in you only through intense yogic effort. For that, you have to go through a comprehensive inner transformation and cultivate all the associated virtues so that you can grow the divinity in you. In the spiritual evolution of a human being egoism is the first stage, humanity is the intermediate stage and divinity is the highest state.
To cultivate divinity, you have to cultivate purity or Sattva. The predominance of Sattva in turn strengthens all the associated virtues, and together they transform you from inside out. With the predominance of Sattva, you can also suppress the negative qualities that arise from Rajas and Tamas, so that your anvatva (egoism) is replaced or suppressed by the predominance of daivatva or divine nature. With that, all the evils that are associated with the ego also weaken or disappear.
To cultivate Sattva, you must practice the Yogas, which are suggested in the Bhagavadgita. Firstly, you must engage in selfless actions and offer their fruit to God. Secondly, you must acquire right knowledge from the scriptures and enlightened masters or from self-study (svadhyaya) to know who you are and what your purpose is. Thirdly, you must practice virtues such as humility, detachment, discernment and dispassion to let go of your selfish desires, egoism, attachments, self-importance, anger, envy, etc.
You must also renounce your worldliness and egoism and stabilize your mind in the contemplation of the Self or God, with devotion and concentration, so that you can stop feeding your ego and weaken it or dissolve it in your spiritual Self. By nature, the spiritual Self possesses all the higher virtues and divine qualities. When you become one with it, you will automatically develop an all-round spiritual personality.
Devotion and forgiveness
A true devotee is one who offers his ego as food (bhakta) to God, who is the ultimate enjoyer (bhokta) of all. When you overcome egoism, by offering it on the altar of God as a token of surrender, sacrifice and humility, you do not find any reason to hurt others or feel hurt by their actions or attitude. Forgiveness becomes your essential nature, whereby you remain equal to fame and defame, praise and criticism, friendship and enmity and cultivate the attitude to forgive others whether they seek forgiveness or not.
Having erased your individuality and the boundaries of your ego, you also see God in everyone, and by that you accept whatever that happens to you as a part of God’s play. If someone hurts you or insults you, you will believe that the God in him wanted to test your or teach you an important lessons. You accept all suffering as a gift from God. In the egoless state, you also feel empathy with others and relate to them as you are no more lost in your own feelings and no more stuck behind the defenses and mental filters of your ego. Without the ego, you find it easier not only to identify yourself with them but also feel their feelings and know their thoughts.
It is difficult to reach this noble stage and attain the state of the Muni or the silent one, in which everything is unconditionally accepted and forgiven, and no explanation is offered in defense of any action, inaction or intention. The perfect yogi is not compelled by any particular desire to prevail upon others or claim self-importance. He is contended by whatever happens or does not happen, and in whatever circumstances he finds himself. Although it is a difficult and perilous path, the Bhagavadgita affirms that with spiritual practice and devotion to God one can extinguish the flame of ego and attain that exalted state of Nirvana or the state of endless peace and equanimity.
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